healing journey

heal from pain and CHOOSE TO become you

get unstuck and understand why

the law of contrast

We have designed our Law of Contrast Theory to help explain what has happened to you during emotional pain and trauma. We know how to get you through to the other side, and we have done this in our own lives. On this journey, you will learn about The Law of Contrast and take a Journey of the Soul & Self and Journey of the Mind. You will heal yourself, rewire your brain, change beliefs, and build confidence.

Our healing journey is for those of us who feel stuck in a pattern - repeating the same actions and feeling controlled by our behavior. We feel stuck on a loop hoping for the answer to fall in our lap or for the day when we finally become a "better" person. Perhaps you have emotional pain, perhaps you are experiencing burnout, or perhaps you are on a journey of self discovery to explore who you really are.

Something happened to you, that you didn't choose.
You CAN choose a different outcome, in spite of that trauma. 

It is easy to get lost in the pain - we help you Get unstuck & understand why change is so hard

THE HEALING JOURNEY
why change is so hard

our Healing journey isn't a pause, it will create more movement in your life than you may have ever experienced

To find yourself in spite of your trauma. We are here to help you find who you want to be, in spite of your trauma. We are here to help you build confidence. We will give the brain a distraction so that you can become who you are. What is beautiful here is that you don’t have to find different people to give you each of the phases of the journey. You get to experience it all in one place, for free if you want. 


We use what works in therapy, psychology and what works with the soul and self. You can find someone who excels at psychology. You can find someone who excels at prescribing medication. You can find someone who excels at inspiring your soul. But here we are not just overcoming trauma, we are taking a healing journey of the soul, the self and the mind, in spite of your trauma. We are here to help you remember who you are.

Change is a natural part of life.
Being stuck will show you that something needs healing.

This healing journey is dangerous and awe inspiring. What’s beautiful is that we are a blend of psychology and soul - A little bit of magic and a little bit of logic

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Here we are not your coaches, we are your guides.
And we are giving you the information.

It’s one thing to read about how to go on an adventure, it's another thing when you are in the wild.

We take you on the healing journey together, which at times can feel like a jungle. We have been on this journey time and again.

We know every poisonous plant and spider. We
definitely know what to do when an animal is charging you and exactly where to avoid danger and where to find inspiration - AND HEALING. 

TRACI & KAYLA

two guides on your journey

You can (and probably have) spend years trying to find the person that’s going to heal your trauma. You can (and probably have) spend years working on your soul, and/or self, and/or the brain. Some of you have gone to therapy with your brain and wonder why you do not have the epiphany of your soul.

We are taking a healing journey with two focuses at once. That might sound intense but in order for lasting change to happen there has to be two focuses at the same time. We are going to be taking a journey of the soul and self, while at the same time a journey of the mind.
This saves you time. Big time.

This is an action based healing journey that embodies everything required to heal - all in one place.

the journey of the soul & self
alongside the journey of the mind

Two journeys at the same time

Take a healing journey to reclaim who you are, rewire the brain, and build your confidence. We have a signature 10 step healing process.

JOURNEY OF THE SOUL & SELF

We provide clarity to help you understand your patterns in conditioning. Change mindset and behavior through a combination of ACT and our own CCC method.

JOURNEY OF THE MIND 

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No one chose their trauma.

We can’t undo our trauma.

We can’t time travel and erase what has been done.

But here is the most important thing: you do not have to accept a life of consequence in your brain from pain you did not choose.

Today you can choose to belong. You were meant to find this method - it was created for a soul just like yours.


You feel lost, broken, behind, 
and like life has skipped over you

For some of us change can be a simple process.
For most of us, it is more complex.

It's hard to know who you are when you are trying to heal from a life of pain.

Are you stuck in the loop of waiting?
Do you keep sabotaging your own success? 
Is your energy in opposition and you keep finding non feelers?

It's time for a healing journey with The Law of Contrast.

change is harder alone which is why we change together. here, you aren't alone anymore.

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THE METHODS AND STRATEGIES YOU NEED TO LIVE WITH INTENTION, HEAL FROM EMOTIONAL PAIN, & BECOME THE MOST CONFIDENT VERSION OF YOU


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Healing journey

Heal from pain and become you.

Healing journey

Get unstuck and understand why change is so hard. This is our original theory on how trauma has stolen who you are.

LAW OF CONTRAST
Theory

Our signature healing process with 10 phases to guide you to in healing, alignment, and true acceptance of yourself.

Journey of the Soul & Self

Unlearn all of the conditioning and modify behavior using our CCC method combined with ACT therapy coaching.

Journey of
the mind

 LAW OF CONTRAST

get unstuck
and understand why

our signature theory on how TRAUMA AND EMOTIONAL PAIN can make changing life hard - and how to help get you unstuck from the loop

Our brain has been rewired from trauma. We have heard this before, you can google this. But the rewiring is not just in behavior. The rewiring has attempted to take who you are. The Law of Contrast will help you recover WHO you are and help rewire the brain for connection instead of for protection. 



We all need healing. Nothing’s working. But it doesn’t mean that it can’t work. It means we need new information. Everyday we are finding out more and more about trauma. We are finding out more and more about the emotional effects trauma has on the brain and that it has been changed. It shifted. 

The Law of Contrast will help you reclaim who you are and help rewire the brain for connection over protection. 

LAW OF CONTRAST

It is easy to get lost in the pain
we help you Get unstuck & understand why

some key concepts that we cover in the law of contrast

Trauma and emotional pain have stolen so much from you. Your confidence, choice, and mind have all been taken from you. We show you how to fight to get them back.

WHAT WAS STOLEN FROM YOU

We separate YOU into 3 parts: your brain, soul, and self. We teach about "the split" that happens with trauma and conditioning. Essentially you have 2 emotion centers & 2 minds that need to be merged and aligned.

2 minds & 2 Emotion Centers

Our methods and strategies incorporate a blend of our own CCC method and the ACT Therapy method to help rewire the brain and modify behavior that causes you pain and suffering - feeling stuck in the loop.

Conditioning of the brain

There are two different emotion centers - one at the soul center and one at the self center.

2 emotion centers
The Soul & the self

The real you - your real mind - is eclipsed by the conditioning of trauma & emotional pain.

Eclipse of the mind
the real you is hidden

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the perspective of who you are and how to see the most confident version of you

The 3 Parts of You

Your Self

Your Soul

Your Brain

The Law of Contrast

We see you. We feel your pain. We will fight for you.

Your never chose your trauma - it isn't meant to be your purpose.

YOU HAVE BEEN TAUGHT “HOW TO BE”- SO MUCH SO THAT YOU FORGET ‘WHO’ TO BE.

Conditioning & Trauma responses
Societal expectations
Church & SCHOOL
Social media
Family & FRIENDS
PARENTS / generational trauma
and many more...



THIS is why we are are spending time teaching and guiding you through The Law of Contrast as it will help you recover WHO you are and help rewire the brain for connection instead of for protection. 






Not only has trauma tried to steal your brain, trauma has tried to steal who you are. 

TRAUMA & EMOTIONAL PAIN

Have Stolen So Much From You

WHO you are and HOW you are.

Traci and Kayla are here to help show you the difference between

The following is a small list that impacts and contributes to HOW we are:

This isn’t to replace therapy. This isn’t to replace labels. This is to give you a shot at feeling something good. This is to give you a shot at feeling worthy. A chance to feel confident. This is to help you experience your life. No more avoiding. No more suffering.

the most confident version of you

You don't need to become a new you, we will show you how to become the REAL YOU.

Your Confidence.
Your Choice.
Your Mind.

emotional pain has stolen:

Trauma and emotional pain have also stolen your confidence and your choice in this world.

When you don’t feel confident, you can’t make choices.
When you don’t feel confident, you don’t feel worthy.

you have forgotten "Who" to be 
You have been taught "how" to be

"How you are" is the version of you that is impacted by the brain.

Conditioning, trauma response, what you have been taught from society, from church, from social media, from parents, from friends, from school, you have been taught how to be. 

Personality quizzes are fun to take, although they usually tell us more about our confident self, than the self we are actually living. See how choice gets taken away? When you are in a depressive state, you can’t even see what options are available to you. You only hear the thoughts that control you. Anxious moments are normal. Anxiety as our whole personality is not.



Think about it for a moment. When you are feeling insecure and unsure, do you think you make the same decisions or have the same thoughts as when you feel your best? I know I don’t. When I feel insecure I tend to isolate, say no to experiences even though on a good day I would go. We don’t have the energy or capacity to do the things we love because we are stuck in survival mode.

When you don’t feel confident, you can’t make choices. When you don’t feel confident, you don’t feel worthy.

the vibration of confidence

emotional pain has stolen your confidence and your choice

our focus in the law of contrast is to rebuild your confidence

You don't need to become a new you, we will show you how to become the REAL YOU.

What do you want? what would you ask for? 

What’s different about this version? 
Is it appearance? 
Is it demeanor? 
is it Character? 
is it Personality? 
what is truly different?


Now keeping your eyes closed, I want you to imagine the most confident version of you. The most confident version of you walks into the room where you are. Let’s imagine that you are sitting at a table and this version pulls up a chair. This confident version of you sits down across from you.

Imagine that I have a magic wand and I can grant you anything you want in this moment. 

imagine for a moment

Close Your Eyes

The Most Confident Version of You

Now I am going to speak to the MOST CONFIDENT version of you. I have a magic wand. What do YOU want?

do you see how your answer changes?

You don’t need to become a different person. Although this version of you can feel separate from you. It can feel distant from you. It can feel so far from your reality that you don’t think this YOU is possible. 

I am here to tell you that we’re not going to go find you. You aren’t lost in Europe. You aren’t hiding under accomplishment in a different reality. The most confident version of you dwells in you. 

The Law of Contrast will help you become the most confident version of YOU.

We won't teach you how to become a brand new person.
Conditioning & manipulation have already done that for you.


Imagine for a moment.. being proud of your home, feeling excited for where you are, loving the reflection in the mirror, and actually believing in yourself. 

Law of Contrast

why you get stuck in change

A journey of rediscovering who you were always meant to be, before the conditioning and emotional pain changed you.. before it changed your mind. 

Become the most confident
version of YOU. 

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In this theory we teach that each emotion center also has its own mind. Each emotion center has its own motivation, desire, beliefs, and choice point. Merging the Soul and the Self will also help to merge the emotion centers to feel alignment. We align these two emotion centers through our signature process of The Choice. 


Now that we have separated the soul and self into different parts of who we are, it is important to also recognize that each has its own emotion center. We have two emotion centers. The Self experiences its own emotions and the Soul experiences its own emotions. These emotions can either move together in alignment or they will move in opposite directions. 

Fulfillment is the integration, not with the mind, but with the BODY and SOUL - when the emotions connect.

Two Emotion Centers

TWO EMOTION CENTERS EACH WITH A MIND OF ITs OWN

alignment is when you feel both emotion centers at the same time

Eclipse of the Mind

The eclipse of the mind has tried to keep you from finding yourself. This will also explain why sometimes it can feel as if you have different version of yourself that is always against you. 

We demonstrate how trauma and conditioning has hidden your mind.

A lot of us feel alone in our relationships, we are going to talk about that as well. Toxic relationships. For today, you are not alone. Because everyone you meet here, will want the same thing for you. Because when you reach the confident version of yourself, when somebody steps into themselves, we ALL get evidence that it works.

Together we can do this. Change is extremely difficult for the human brain. Change is even more extremely difficult for the trauma brain. Did you know that connection, real authentic connection, on this journey will heal so much more in you than you thought possible? Because in order for you to feel unworthy, you have to be alone. Isolated. 

How you are can change even with labels.
You can learn and adapt - if you are willing to take a journey - to walk away from unworthiness and walk towards confidence to become the REAL YOU.

applying the Law of contrast

OUR SIGNATURE METHOD FOR CHANGE with THE INSPIRED LIFESTYLE

The brain will need a distraction to accompany your healing journey. We use our CCC method to help you grow confidence through consistency. 

2. consistent action
ccc method

We teach you how to align yourself by communicating between your soul and self where each version is seen, heard, and valued by our choice method.

3. Aligning soul & self
with the choice

We provide clarity to help you understand your patterns in conditioning. Change mindset and behavior through a combination of ACT and our own CCC method.

4. JOURNEY OF THE MIND & act therapy

Take a healing journey to reclaim who you are, rewire the brain, and build your confidence. We have a signature 10 step healing process.

1. healing Journey of The Soul & Self

Journey of the soul & self

heal from pain
choose to become you

Our signature healing journey to overcome trauma & emotional pain  
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We include "trauma informed / post pandemic" advice. Our method has been helping souls like you find alignment, healing, and confidence.


Our signature ten phase healing process is available for you to reclaim who you are while rewiring your brain.
This is what separates us from the rest. 

A journey of rediscovering who you were always meant to be, before the conditioning and emotional pain changed you.. before it changed YOUR MIND. 

The Journey of the Soul & Self 

heal from pain and choose to become you

OUR 10 PHASE HEALING PROCESS TO BUILD CONFIDENCE & FIND ALIGNMENT

Journey of the Soul & Self

the ten phase healing process

breakdown

sleepwalking

awakening

undoing

choice

healing

rising up

softening

alignment

reclaiming

Your true change lies on the other side of what you are avoiding. In this phase we look at the control and manipulation that others have on you and and prepare to wake up.

1. sleepwalking

Now is the time when we are ready for clarity. Truth wrapped in love, so you can see your life with a fresh perspective and see the honest truth of what needs to change.

3. awakening

You are finally sick of it all, you have had it. This is when you are ready to feel the feels and get angry about everything you have been avoiding. It's time to feel it all.

2. breakdown

You are ready to face it all head on. Choices made in sleepwalking sometimes need to be undone, and some promised you made will need to break.

4. undoing

In order to cross over the threshold of pain into happiness, there are some things we need to let go of; a choice that needs to be made.

5. choice

You are ready to fight for who you want to become and you are feeling more confidence every step of the way. You are reclaiming WHO YOU ARE.

7. reclaiming

Forgiveness, grace, and compassion are the themes in this phase. Forgiveness for what has been done to you and also what you have done to others.

6. healing

Taking Responsibility and ownership of who you are. No more making excuses. It doesn’t matter what life handed you, you have to be the one to rise up.

8. rising up

Softening is strength. When we let go of our plans and stubbornness, we are ready to listen to divine love. Action steps become clear here and you can get a lot of movement in a softened state

9. softening

Alignment is where you are able to make daily choices that match where you want to go in life and who you want to become. Your life represents who you truly are. 

10. alignment

our signature method to ALIGN THE SOUL & SELF in each phase

The Alignment Process

emotion

You will feel your emotions - all of them. The emotions of the Soul and the Self. Feeling them - at the same time - is how we will merge them together.

align emotion centers

ACTION

Build confidence through consistency and behavior changes through a combination of ACT and our own signature CCC method.

confidence

commuication

You will have a conversation between the Soul and the Self and connect both minds through an agreement we call - THE CHOICE.

connect the minds

Darkness eclipsed our minds so that we cannot see the real us. 

We might have learned not to trust our feelings, but your feelings and your emotions, they are telling you not to give up on yourself, to find the real you. 


In order to connect, we have A CHOICE.
But with the old perception, we can’t see any other choice.

You will have a conversation between the Soul and the Self and connect both minds through an agreement we call - THE CHOICE.

Conversation between your soul & self

There will be an agreement between the soul and self alongside a commitment for change with our Lifestyle Design Strategy. 

acceptance in totality

As we navigate your desires, there will be a constant reminder to keep your brain, patterns, and conditioning out of this process.

brain on the shelf

Journey of the Soul and Self

how to start your HEALING journey with the law of contrast

We have a FREE course login where all of your videos, pdf downloads, mp3 audios, and more are kept in a beautiful organized way. 

1. Enroll in Free Course

Come connect with other souls who are on a similar journey and need accountability from each other. Download our community app and get more connection in your journey.

2. join our community

Desire alone doesn't change your life, It is the consistent aligned action and a lifestyle that supports the success of your desired change. If you need support, we have options.

3. choose support

enroll here

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Journey of 
THE MIND

overcome the pattern
and rewire your brain

Our signature blend of act therapy & our ccc method coaching to provide clarity in the behaviors and beliefs that rewire your brain

The Journey of the Mind

heal from pain and choose to become you

Here is the funny thing about getting what you want, sometimes it doesn’t feel good because there is also a belief inside of you that feels bad. Sometimes it is because the result is not what you wanted at all. It was only what you thought you wanted. In order to experience amazing moments, you must know what it is that you want.

To know what you want and to “think” you know what you want are two very different things. 

To experience amazing moments, means that you have accepted yourself and have the belief that feels good in the moment of receiving your results. 

Why is it when something amazing happens we rarely feel amazing? How does it truly feel when you get the “thing” you have so desperately tried to overcome? Do you feel amazing? Be honest. How does it really feel? Some might feel conflicted, thinking “is this really it”? Perhaps it doesn’t feel as good as you thought it would feel. This is a really important aspect of change that needs to be addressed.

No one really talks about the conflicted feelings of receiving something. When we get something we want or when something amazing happens, we have the ability to feel many things. This confuses most people.
 There is this assumption that the result is where happiness is - which isn't true at all. 

A journey to: understand why you get stuck in the pattern, learn how to modify your behaviors & beliefs, and rewire your brain to reclaim who you were meant to be. 

You must know who you are and accept who you are 

Feeling seen, heard, and valued on your healing journey.

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT

ACT Therapy & Coaching combined with Law of Contrast.

Psychology

Identifying values that guide the aligned choice of change.

ALIGNED CHOICES

Modifying behavior to support direction of desired outcome.

BEHAVIOR

Living with intention over living in reaction.

intention

The more connection you have, the faster your results will come.

CONNECTION

Consistency builds confidence and creates change.

CONSISTENCY

Learn the difference between inspired action and distraction.

INSPIRED ACTION

acceptance & commitment therapy combined with ccc method

The CoachingSupport

sometimes we choose distraction over alignment

your lifestyle, mindset, and behavior will either help your change or keep you stuck

Triggered choices will always lead to lots of effort in the wrong direction

When you get stuck in the pattern you will need to overcome the mind.

we have mentoring support options to help you change behavior and patterns

1:1 SUPPORT ACT & CCC
THE PATTERN

1:1 SUPPORT
JOURNEY OF THE SOUL & SELF 

GROUP COACHING

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We understand your pain.
We know how to help you heal.

Let the inspiration wash over you.

Your guides through change.
You aren't alone anymore.

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